Self, interrupted

betty davisFor me, January has been a bit of a yelling fest. My search for self has been interrupted by random people either yelling at me or “giving me a stern talkin’ to.” In each case, I am completely surprised.  And in each case, I have a choice.   – I can weigh their information up against what I know to be true of myself.  – I can react and defend myself.  – I can listen and in a low tone excuse myself. – Or, I could actually yell back at them.

In case you were wondering, I always choose the high road and respectable calm exit. But what about the more assertive response?  What about saying, “you are out of line.” What about standing up to a bully or disrupts the self-righteous instigator? There is nothing wrong with this approach, in fact a more assertive response may be necessary.  Women and girls in general should investigate that place between being mean and being a doormat.  We need to incorporate an assertive response that says, “hey, you sound upset, maybe it’s me, but maybe it’s not.”

I have to admit, I did allow all this interaction to confuse the perception I have of myself.  I wondered if I have had the right approach – for that day and for the entire length of my life? I kept my balance and decided to be better prepared the next time it happens, if it happens. It might be time for a new approach, a self, interrupted.

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