girl with cigaretteRecently I had coffee with a new friend.  After we got caught up with each other’s lives, events, and opinions, we explored a deeper topic of “what we want.”  We agreed there will always be opportunities, functions, Facebook & LinkedIn events in which to network, connect socially, and expand our business or personal interests.  What we wanted was to take a break.

Our conversation soon turned to…when is enough, enough? When do I stop searching for the “next thing” and focus on my own work?  I can’t continue to balance both work and play equally.   At some point, I must stop reading information and produce it as my own. As my friend and I talked about our slipping and sliding around town attending events, I realized I was not only looking for connection with others but a deeper substance with myself.  A substance only found when I make time to create, dream and explore my own work.

So, here is the question.  What do I Want?  What do I want my business to be? What do you Want your life or business or family…to be? The choices made today construct the path to goals achieved and successes.  Just wishing I were so-in-so or hoping for a successful business will not make it so. I need to find a better balance of work and play.  Coffee dates/cocktail events and teaching people to sing.  Friends and new friends will always be waiting to see me.  I must make sure I have done the work and achieved the success to talk about it with them.  Consistent good work equals a success to talk about.

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IMG_2665For months, I have been carrying around this torn out page from an old Oprah magazine.  I am drawn to its colors, design and enduring message. This message is for me. And to be honest – the journey is all I have.  I can’t guarantee the outcome of any event or relationship, but I can work them out and enjoy myself.  I can always end a journey by selling my business or accepting another adventure.  I guess the present moment is a lot cooler than I give it credit for.

This month my journey has led me to a few coffee dates with some very interesting and connected people.  With each one, I had the privilege of telling my story and being surprised by our similarities.  A CEO of a national company, the director of a small theater and the president of a non-profit arts organization all have journies they are excited about.  Projects and risk, hopes and expectations that have no guarantee= enjoying the journey.  Maybe that is why their lives are so exciting.

I guess I have still been thinking that after all this work, I will plateau and enjoy the ride.  But, that isn’t true – AND, I am not allowing myself to enjoy it.   James Clear writes, “Your concern is to do the work, not to judge it. Your concern is to fall in love with the process, not to grade the outcome. Keep your eyes on your own paper.”  The journey is everything – and if others come along….awesome.