Recently my singing/speaking voice has decreased in range, partly due to a lack of practice, over use as I lecture in college classes, and pushing the bounds of style. But what about the “beliefs I have about myself?” How does a decreased self-confidence and stress effect my voice – and my Voice?
According to Christiane Northrup, M.D., “we are taught from an early age that our health is largely the result of our genetic heritage, whether or not we’ve been immunized, how many supplements we take, and how much exercise we get. There is no doubt that these factors can contribute to our state of health. But their influence pales in comparison to the power of our beliefs and attitudes.”
Take a moment to document the stress coming at you from the outside. Are you pushing it aside or breathing through it? Do these stressors include work, increased work, care for your family, increased care for family, and maybe a change in your own physical health? Is it the weather and how weather effects these stressors? In any case, you and your health are a lot more important than what our culture wants us to achieve. And how I view and believe in myself is too.
Take time to calibrate and understand this connection. It may help save your life making it richer, bolder, and healthier.
Recently I had coffee with a new friend. After we got caught up with each other’s lives, events, and opinions, we explored a deeper topic of “what we want.” We agreed there will always be opportunities, functions, Facebook & LinkedIn events in which to network, connect socially, and expand our business or personal interests. What we wanted was to take a break.
Our conversation soon turned to…when is enough, enough? When do I stop searching for the “next thing” and focus on my own work? I can’t continue to balance both work and play equally. At some point, I must stop reading information and produce it as my own. As my friend and I talked about our slipping and sliding around town attending events, I realized I was not only looking for connection with others but a deeper substance with myself. A substance only found when I make time to create, dream and explore my own work.
So, here is the question. What do I Want? What do I want my business to be? What do you Want your life or business or family…to be? The choices made today construct the path to goals achieved and successes. Just wishing I were so-in-so or hoping for a successful business will not make it so. I need to find a better balance of work and play. Coffee dates/cocktail events and teaching people to sing. Friends and new friends will always be waiting to see me. I must make sure I have done the work and achieved the success to talk about it with them. Consistent good work equals a success to talk about.
Recently a friend of mine, an engineer, was given a project at work. She has degrees and years of experience in the field of Engineering and was very curious about why she was given this particular set of tasks. When she spoke to her team lead, he replied by referencing her choice to work part-time and that it was the easiest job he could find to assign her.
Working part-time doesn’t mean a lack of education, time, experience, energy or that you are looking for an “easy” task. My friend chooses to work part time to enjoy a quality parenting schedule with her 4 and 9 year old girls. Her husband also works, making an adequate income to contribute to the support of the family. In fact, my friend’s part time working schedule gives everyone the balance they are looking for.
In this case, is this a success or a set back? An engineering degree, choosing to work part time and time to enjoy life, to me, sounds like a great success. But, being told you need easy work because you won’t work at home in the evenings and full time in the office sounds like a set back. Navigating through the bias of part time work is tricky. Finding the support and understanding from your employers is essential – and a little give and take from both is success. My friend has her yearly review this week. We will see how it goes.
1. People of all sizes working out
2. Millennials using texts and IG rather than Email or FB
3. The fact that companies put too much sugar in food to suck you in
4. Friends choosing to work more rather than relax
5. Coffee that costs too much
What I am saying is – move beyond the clutter of info. Make your own decisions and then act.